Home | Resources | Directory | Site Map | Marketing in Uncertain Times
Evaluating Opportunities | Improving Grain Marketing Knowledge

Grain Marketer brings you helpful articles and smart resources geared towards the latest grain market news, trade statistics, analysis and world production estimates for the international grains industry.


The Dark Side of Beauty

A number of women have said that it can be a liability, and a new article says that "very attractive kids may grow up to be insecure adults, especially if they were praised solely for their appearance. They may develop a particularly harsh way of assessing themselves - what Heather Patrick, a researcher at Baylor College of Medicine, calls 'contingent self-esteem.'.

"They may feel good about their looks only if they meet a specific, and usually very high, expectation, such as weighing in at a certain number. Self-satisfaction is not on a spectrum for such people: If they don't meet their standard, they feel absolutely ugly." [The Beguiling Truth About Beauty, by Carlin Flora, Psychology Today June 2006].Actor Evangeline Lilly admits, "I spent many nights crying myself to sleep wishing I was ugly because of the way men leered and disrespected me, because they assumed things about my mental capacity or my physical willingness based on the way I look.

".She avoided working in entertainment a long time, but started doing commercials to pay her university tuition. When a friend told her she was afraid of facing her own success, she "bawled her eyes out on the spot," she says."It triggered something.

Ever since high school I had done things so people wouldn't just respect me because of the way I looked. I decided, to hell with it. I'm going to pursue mediocrity, and I'm going to be so happy." Six weeks after her first audition, she was in Hawaii filming "Lost." [Elle magazine elle.com].

Cybill Shepherd, for example, has said of her appearance that it is "a kind of mask that I sit behind and watch people react to. Beauty opens or closes doors, brings out love, falsity, and cruelty." One of her directors, Peter Bogdanovich said "People disliked her for being successful and beautiful and not apologizing for it. She was sexy and striking and smart, and it was a little bit too much for people. A lot of men were threatened.".

Raquel Welch has said she was more intimidated by her image than anyone else: "I mean, there's a tremendous loss of self, because you really are in a job where this image has been created. I like beautiful people, I like beautiful things, I like beautiful poems. but things aren't beautiful without substance. It's like a plastic flower; it looks so attractive and you want to take in the fragrance, but then you go to inhale and you suddenly realize there's nothing there."And I felt like I was getting into that, that I was sort of in danger of having that happen to me.

Because I think I soaked in too much the way that people were objectifying me, and the more that they did, the more I did.".Charlize Theron once noted the mythology is "just utter nonsense - this ideology that women who are pretty don't feel, don't have pain, or don't understand human conflict, because everything's just so dandy for them.".

The pursuit of stereotypical beauty through makeup and cosmetic surgery can tend to homogenize individuality. Jane Fonda is the new "face" of L'Oreal at age 68, and says, "I'm going to try and organize other women in my profession and my friends to say no to the duck lips and getting rid of the wrinkles. I've just traveled through Sweden and Finland, looking at faces that were real.

as opposed to, in Hollywood, (where) everybody is starting to look alike.".Julie Taymor directed Salma Hayek in Frida (2002) and said, "It can be difficult for a beautiful woman like Salma to find artistically challenging roles; so much attention is paid to all their facial expressions, and they keep seeing themselves all the time.

".Diane Lane commented last year that she is "starting to become more and more of an actress as the youth and glamour aspects become less important to me. I can finally branch out.".

The Psychology Today article concludes that in real life "our physical appearance is always evaluated alongside our body language, voice and temperament. Charm can trump beauty. In one study [on likeability], attractiveness was the least important factor.


.Douglas Eby writes about psychological and social aspects of creative expression and achievement. His site has a wide range of articles, interviews, quotes and other material to inform and inspire: Talent Development Resources http://talentdevelop.


By: Douglas Eby

Grain Marketing

Too late Maybe not - Do you have dreams that have never been realized? Do you feel like it?s too late to act on them? Well?.

Elder Abuse and Care - I am by no means an advocate, however I been privy to the Convalescent Care arena.

How I Got Fired Four Times and Still Made it to The White House - In the ad biz they say you can't be any good if you haven't been fired.

Economics The Dismal Science - It is debatable whether economics should actually be defined as being a science.

Lent A Spiritual Point Of View - The period of Lent is the beginning of a shift of energy on the planet.

GrainMarketer.com © Copyright 2024, All Rights Reserved.